This page is the ultimate primer on the mystery of sex transmutation, the first principle of authentic achievement. On this page I will explain what it is, why bother, and how to do start doing it. Believe me that last part is pretty hard.
WTF, Sex transmutation?
First of all, let’s start off with the question what sex transmutation actually is. My own definition, and in my experience the easiest one: “Sex transmutation is the saving of sexual energy, for other uses besides sex”.
Now what the hell does that mean? Let’s work backwards for a minute and talk about not practicing sex transmutation i.e depleting your sexual energy through excessive ejaculation and other depletive exercises (such as fidgeting). Tell me, what does every guy want to do after he ejaculates?
Yes that is correct: Sleep.
It is a safe bet then that ejaculation does not make you (and I am talking about men here, women’s ejaculations can differ depending on clitoral v.s. penetration) very energetic. On the contrary, it makes one tired and lethargic. This effect increases exponentially with multiple ejaculations, as you might have experience yourself already.
It is then also not a stretch to assume that multiple orgasms per week, or even per day for the rabbits out there, just make us very lazy and unproductive. I think every guy can agree with me on that. One could speculate that doing the opposite of that, not coming (as in, practicing sex transmutation) for a while, might have the opposite effect. And there seems to be a lot of evidence to support that, and not only anecdotal evidence.
If you are not sold yet though, don’t take my word for it. I stand on the shoulders of giants when it comes to sex transmutation. There are some highly acclaimed authors who stumbled upon the power of sex transmutation. Napoleon Hill already wrote about the mystery of sex transmutation long before I was born in his all time classic “Think and Grow Rich”. I did find some other gold nuggets though, see below.
A few book excerpts dealing with or discussing the practice of sex transmutation:
From the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, page :
The emotion of sex (sex transmutation) has three uses:
1. The perpetuation of mankind
2. As a healing agent
3. Transforming mediocrity into genius by means of sex transmutation.
The emotion of sex is the strongest human emotion.
From the book Rules of the Game
by Neil Strauss:
“I had to keep myself busy in order to not think about sex. Probably the most productive time of my career.”
This was an experiment done (which he ultimately failed) by Neil Strauss to harness his sexual energy in order to give his writing efforts a boost. He failed the experiment because in the end he could not transmute his energy and it all just centered in ehm, you know where. To be honest his only efforts to transmute the energy was by doing pushups (of which he actually ended up doing a lot!). In my point of view this was an honest attempt at sex transmutation.
“There are many physical and spiritual reasons why ejaculation should be converted into non-ejaculatory whole body, brain, and heart orgasms (ie sex transmutation). But there are also relational reasons.
When a man has no control over his ejaculation, he cannot meet his woman sexually or emotionally. She knows she can deplete him, weaken him, empty him of life force.
She has won. When a man ejaculates easily, he creates ongoing distrust in his woman. At a subtle level, she feels he cannot be trusted. She, and the world, can deplete and depolarize him easily.
This subtle distrust will pervade the relationship. She will not only doubt him, but actually act to undermine his actions in the world. By undermining him she demonstrates and tests his weakness, but she also hopes that through such tests he can learn to remain full.”
“Orgasm feels great for a few moments, but the price you pay for the genital sneeze of ejaculation is a much higher level of mediocrity in your daily life. You will find that you just don’t have the extra gusto necessary to live your life with utter impeccability. Excess ejaculations pave the road to living a good life, but not a great life.”
” In a subtle way, excess ejaculations will diminish your courageto take risks, professionally and spiritually. One will settle for doing enough to get by, to be comfortable, but you will find that you would rather watch TV than write your novel, meditate, or make that important phone call.
There will be enough motivation to live a decent life, but ejaculations drain you of the “cutting through”energy that is necessary to pierce your own wall of lethargy and slice through the obstructions that arise in the world. Your gift will remain largely ungiven.”
As the saying goes “it takes three to make a good argument”, so now we certainly have reasons to assume that there is something to not having ejaculations all day. Saving it makes us more energetic, creative, and according to Hill, more genius. Sounds like something worth trying right?
UPDATE: More recently another favorite best selling author of mine called for an experiment involving abstaining from ejaculation. Read here about Tim Ferriss ‘ No Booze/No Masturbation (NOBNOM)
You know the phenomenom of buying a red car, then you see red cars all around you? Same goes with sex transmutation. More and more people are discovering it.
UPDATE 2: Abstaining of ejaculation and the practice of sex transmutation is catching on and going mainstream under the words “No Fap”. It’s all over reddit!
Now I know that for a lot of you this all might seem a little (or a lot) out there and way too spiritual/hocus pocus. I myself can appreciate the spiritual side of it but perhaps you might not.
Thos of you can look at it from an evolutionary standpoint/biological standpoint.
According to biologists, we are here on earth for two reasons:
1. To survive
2. To procreate
The first imperative makes us eat, build homes and wear clothes. The second makes us want to have sex with the opposite (or same, for some people) gender. The desire for procreation is in
essence a creative desire (subconsciously you want to create babies). This desire is very strong, one of the the strongest natural desires that we have. There have been wars fought, reputations destroyed, families broken just to satisfy this desire. When used wrongly the desire for sex is very destructive. When harnessed through sex transmutation is it very creative.
By not ejaculating excessively, you are not wasting this creative energy, and your body and mind will have plenty of energy that wants to find other creative outlets like writing a book, studying for an exam, or building a great body. The building a great body part is also worth noting. Some people have experienced getting ridicuously strong really fast when practicing sex transmutation. It is gaining traction under the name NoFap Workouts.
How to do Sex Transmutation.
So how do we exactly transmute our sexual energy? The first thing is obviously to stop wasting our sexual energy. So no more excessive ejaculations. For how long you ask? I honestly don’t know what that would be for you, but for me ejaculating once every 6-9 days seems to be the sweet spot between enjoying myself sexually and building and retaining plenty of energy for my creative pursuits. Taoists believe that one should ejaculate no more often than every “your age/5” days. So in my case I would be allowed to ejaculate once every 31/5= 6 days more or less. As you get older, the time you have to refrain increases. This makes intuitively sense, as sex drive decreases with age.
There is more to it though. Refraining from orgasm is the start, but letting that energy build up in your sex organs and doing nothing with it will drive you crazy. You can do two things about this. The first option is to “circulate” that energy through your body, done by visualization and breathing. Honestly I am still practicing that and will let you know when I have a consistent way of doing that. The other is to let that energy build up and force you to take physical/mental/sexual action as a result. This is what I mostly do, to use that energy and invest in productive endeavors. This obviously goes way deeper than what I just described, but it should get you started. A more in depth approach you can find in my upcoming book (Q2, 2019), for which you will get a 80% discount if you just leave you email address below!
To conclude this rather long article: Sex transmutation works if you (don’t?) work it ;).
For those of you who are interested in learning more about sex transmutation, or spiritual sexuality in general I highly recommend reading David Deida’s book, “The Way of the Superior man”. You can check it out on Amazon here:
Edit: Even science is catching up! There is actually some scientific research done on the effects of abstaining from ejaculation.
After 7 days testosterone increased dramatically (which is a good thing). Read the study on Pubmed.
The more I dig into the subject of sex transmutation and harnessing sexual energy, the more I discover and learn things that are very exciting. Right now I am working on a shortish book that highlights the sex transmutation practices from all kinds of disciplines around the world. Expect it to be the go to guide on the practice of sex transmutation. I expect it to finish in Q2 of 2019. If you are interested, please leave your email below. Those who do so will get the book at an 80% discount once it comes out, as my way of saying thanks for your early support.